My family and I have had a rough couple of weeks. We lost two of our Elders in our family within days of one another. On top of that the baby has been sick and we have been battling his problems trying to get him better. Finally I think we are seeing the light at the end of the dark tunnel.
With the passing of our family members, it brings me to think of what I would wish for myself. My husband and I have started to discuss what our wishes would be and decided that we need to talk ALOT more about the subject. One of my wishes was to have a home funeral and have my husband tend to my body after I die. He feels really uncomfortable with it. He thinks he will be too emotional to be able to do it.
So I guess I am starting to doubt about what I have already written down. It's good that I do have my thoughts down on paper, but what good will they be if he (or my future adult children) choose not to honor them? Hubby thinks that funerals are for the living, not the deceased. I think it does give those that remain a closure to say goodbye to the one they loved and have lost. However, I also believe that if a person goes out of their way to write down their final wishes it should be honored.
Every Samhain, I write my own obituary. I want to know how I could possibly be remembered as. Each and every year we grow and change as people do. This year for Samhain, I will re-evaluate all I have put to paper and think what do I really want? What do I want to leave for my loved ones? I have seen funerals tear families apart for the struggle of what is "rightfully" theirs, and I have seen families drawn closer together and not give a rat's ass about material things which was a totally wonderful experience.
I hope in the long run that I will be blessed to love and share my life with my husband as long at Uncle B and Aunt P had together. They were married to each other for most of their life. They made it well past their Fiftith Wedding Anniversary many many years ago. I never seen them apart, and they were always showing signs right to the end that they were every bit as much in love as they were when they first met!
May they rest in peace, and give me and my husband the strong foundation of what a good marriage is and what two people can achieve together whenever they have a strong partner they love!
Lammas is shortly upon us. I wish you all well and Happy Harvest!
I will be revisiting old friends from Sacred Birch. Terry has put together a reunion of sorts for old members to come back and say hello with one another. It will be good to see old friends and also celebrate my coven sister Katherine's achievement being done with Chemo! She kicked her disease's butt to the curb!
"Fall Cleaning" will shortly begin. We will be putting our house for market next spring, so the Fall clean will be another massive overhall and preparations of what we will need to do prior to putting it for sale.